Not all of us are rich enough to live by ourselves. And not all of us want to live with our parents for the rest of our lives. Where does that leave us? It's time to find out how to get a roommate — and preferably a good one.
Living with someone you don't know at all can be awkward. Living with someone you know sort of well, but may not like, can get even more awkward. So, if you're like a lot of renters out there, your first choice for a new roomie is a very close friend who you really know. Usually, this can work out really well. If you aren't careful, it could also be the next step on your path to being on a daytime talk show.
Ask yourself if you think you can share a communal space with this person for an extended period of time. Does he or she do something that bugs you? Don't fret about being a bad friend. This is about being a good one. You want to make sure you come out of this still friends.
None of your friends need a roomie? Then it's time to search. Here are some things to consider when choosing the perfect roommate:
Begin the Quest
Tell everyone you know that you are looking for a roommate, ask around and put flyers up around your campus/work to get the word out. Include an email address and not a personal telephone number.
Another great place to post an ad is on an online community site. Describe a little bit about yourself and what you are looking for in a roommate. Also, if you think you'd only be comfortable rooming someone of the same sex, then don't be afraid to say so.
Keep It Real
Don't tell someone that you are a neat freak when you really aren't. False advertising stinks. Remember: you are trying to make this as comfortable a situation as possible for everyone involved. Avoid future "Real World” moments.
If you are a hardcore studier and don't like a lot of parties, let it be known. Feel out your potential roommates before you commit to sharing a bathroom with them. Don't make yourself out to be something that you are not.
You most definitely do not want to be four months into a lease and realize you've leased with your new worst enemy. This can be prevented. Once you've advertised yourself truthfully and had a few qualified responses, meet in person. And just like if you were meeting someone off the internet, meet at a public place.
Conduct your Roommate Preview
Now, it's time for what we call a "Roommate Preview.” Prepare a list of rules and things you expect in this new roommate situation. If your rules are along the same lines, then chances are you'll be good roommates. However, if you're a party animal and they are an anti-social hermit, it's probably not a good match. Having your roommate call the cops on your own house party is NOT fun.
Plan for Friendship—or Don't!
So, you've completed your search and you found your new roommate. Things may be a little awkward at first, but hopefully, your search went well. From our experience, you soon get more comfortable with each other. You can even become good friends, believe it or not! But, if you are like Oprah and have enough friends, it's okay to be cordial with your roommate and just look at them as someone who cuts your rent in half. They probably think the same about you. Happy Renting!
Thanks for reading this article! This article has been revised from an original article shared on apartments.com